Ellen Wolf, 148 years combined experience with NPDs
Ignore them, but do it cleverly. From the day my narc dumped me (after being together nearly 30 years) I never again mentioned his name, particularly not on FB. I made no comments about him, what he had done, how he did it, what a horrible person he is, nothing.
I posted (and continue to post) nothing he could possibly suggest that was in reference to him.NPDs want an audience – they crave attention more than anything. I’m not giving him any, and by not talking about him or the things he’s doing (even when I’d love to call him out for the shit he’s tried to pull), I’ve essentially made him disappear. Poof!React to nothing.
Never mention him – ever – particularly not on any social media. He will try to provoke you to anger or tears whenever he posts about you. He wants the drama, he wants you upset, he wants to control the narrative.
DO NOT LET HIM HAVE WHAT HE WANTS.I enjoy knowing that he keeps waiting for me to trip up, to create the kind of drama he could point to and say “See! I told you she was a __________!” He’s doomed to be disappointed. Awwww!